Real Talk: Valentine's Day

I am currently in one of those airplane seats that turns into a bed for the long international flights going from LAX->DTW->LHR. I always write a lot on airplanes, for some reason it seems like my mind opens up...or maybe that's just the vodka tonic talking. 

Valentine's Day is right around the corner, and the only thoughts that are really going through my mind are how many sky miles I'll acquire on this trip and what type of flowers to send to my mom. When I first started to write about Valentine's Day, I didn't really know where to start. For single people, Valentine's Day isn't really any different than any other day. You do the same usual things, but maybe buy yourself a gift and eat an entire box of chocolates while reading the thousands of tweets and instagrams about "how much I love my boo bear." 

We get it - you're in a relationship and want the general public to know. 

Now, I'm not bad mouthing this. If I were dating someone, I'd probably do the exact same thing. There is a feeling about when you're with that person - you know, "the one" who you can't describe. In today's day and age, you put your status on the Internet. Do not think for a minute though that you have to be in a relationship in order to achieve happiness. Being single is totally fine, and some people actually enjoy it more. Oscar Wilde once said, "I think it's very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person." Either option, being single or taken, can be great. 

This brings me to my next point: putting yourself out there.  We now live in a world where I feel that there is a lack of emotion.  Text messages get misinterpreted and people post things online that they wouldn't say in person.  The drive to communicate is still there, just lacking soul. Don't get me wrong - the Internet can be great, too.  After all, you are reading my blog! But I feel that me being new on this site, you don't really know me yet.  So to start off building our newfound trust, I'll tell you a story about myself. 

A year or two ago, I was super interested in this girl. I had met her through a friend, and she was incredible. We would talk a lot, and eventually we went out a handful of times when I was home from tour or when she wasn't traveling for work. The night before I was about to fly out of town, we watched a movie at her house.  It ended, and she was going to walk me to the door. This was the big moment for me to let her know how I really felt about her. I told her how I really liked her, and that I would love to see her more (and everything else that goes into telling a very pretty girl how you actually feel about her).I figuratively threw myself in front of the relationship bus and hoped that it would stop. 

But the bus ran me over. 

She explained that she just didn't feel that way about me and that she was really sorry. I was bummed, as I should have been because she had so many of the good qualities that I look for in a girl. Sometimes the Internet provides a mask and we never really get out the feelings that we were truly trying to convey.  Would you rather take one single bullet to the head or six to the chest and slowly bleed to death?  I'd pick the head everyday. Was I bummed about being rejected? Yes, totally, but at the end of the day there were no "what if's". Life is full of rejections, but it seems a lot easier when we face them head on. 

So on this upcoming Valentine's Day, perhaps put yourself out there and, just maybe, the bus will stop short and let you on. But if you're happy with being single, then there is nothing wrong with just waiting for the walk sign.

Danny Kurily